What's A Mom To Do? Your Thoughts Please!

Sigh... Ok, when you go back to your parents house during the summer how do you do it? What works? What does not work? I understand that college kids are slow to get back into curfews, allowances, chores but I am stumped as for what is real. We have asked our darling, wonderful and very social son to be home at a certain time during the week(11:00pm) and another time on the weekends(2:00am). We need to sleep, work and know that he is in safe. We ask that he get up in time to get himself to work at the jobs that we got for him. I have driven him this whole week! We ask that he not spend all his money( that we give him) in one day. Everyday I am opening my wallet giving him more money. His dad don't play that. We ask that he not come in our house BLAZED. He comes in semi-blazed...thinks I am stupid...His dad is asleep when he crawls in. He is cool with respecting the vehicles and he does clean up after himself ...mostly. Am I doin' way too much? You know how dad's are. They are quick to say: "Get out of MY house"... I have given him the whole downstairs for the Summer. Husband says: That level is in the mortage too... I just wanna have a nice Summer...HELP!!!

How bout you LET him make the mistakes and let him taste a bit of life.... Let him spend all his money.....dont open up your wallet to give him anything... Let him be late for work....dont wake him up he should be learning that he needs to take care of himself now and be responsible...if you ask him to do so the first time and you find yourself in that same place for the 3rd...its time to leave it for him to handle.