More Than Your Man, Less Than Your Woman

He has to take his rightful place as being the head of the household. We will not get married until he can prove that he can hold that position. I can live with the fact of earning more than him (before marriage)and being more educated than him. But only for a little while. I have children and him and I are the examples for them.

Great Question! Beyond the money and education, I am still going to be the rock for my family. However, I could live with my wife making more money than me. Given today’s trends, it’s possible that ladies of different ethnicities will make more than their husband. In private and public sectors, there is an initiative for diversity that ranges from Management to Entry level. As far as education level, I think people should strive to reach their potential. If her desire is a Masters and my desire is a PhD, I am ok with that given a PhD is not her goal. I think the important factor to consider is their mentality. Does your potential wife or husband take steps to reach their goal? However, I don’t think the education level or degree obtained signifies their level of intelligence or define success for a given career path. I think career success and degrees required are determined by the requirements in a field of study. For example, if your major is Business, a MBA will qualify you for an executive position, if you are a leader. However, if your major is psychology, a Doctorate is required to be a psychologist. It is important to find an individual that complements you spiritually, mentally, and physically. I recommend brothers and sisters exercise patience and build better relationships. It may be challenging, but in the long run, it’s better for us to unite. We should address the future of families in our community, and it starts today. It starts with our perception and expectations of each other. I envision the future being better than the pass or present.

i could make more money and have a higher educational level if we were compatible spiritually and intellectually. i know some einsteins who didn't go farther than trade school

Money isn't everything.