Wedding Bells for any of you guys?

17 replies · 7390 views · Started by smc112 · Apr 2008

smc112

Laguana Hills, CA

smc112 Laguana Hills, CA

I guess I might need to direct this question to the guys ages 23 and up. Are any of you guys thinking about marriage in the near future and if so, what's making you want to commit? I've found that a lot of guys are waiting to their late 20's and early 30's to get married. Why is that? Is that the golden age for guys now to settle down? On the flip side, what's taking you so long to get married? Alright, fellas... let it rip!

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C Nels · Apr 2008

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I got married 2 yrs ago (coming up on the 29th). We were together for 7 yrs before I proposed. The two main issues for me were: 1) having a foundation to be able to support a family and 2) moving back down south from Philly. I didn't want to start a family there so we waited. Then after a while I just put it all in God's Hands and He led me to where I am now...solid foundation and living in the South! Thumbup1

Committment wasn't a factor. And it's funny that you brought this topic up, my twin just proposed to his now fiance this past Friday! Clap

So don't give up on waiting on your "knight in shining armor" just yet, ladies! ~riding off into the sunset on my trusty steed LOL

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TSUblueTiger · Apr 2008

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I think people are focusing on their careers, after college. Once they are financially stable, they start to consider marriage and settling down. In general, it takes longer to become financially stable today as opposed to our parents generation. The trend in society is different in terms of requirements and careers. In the past, it only took a high school diploma to qualify for most jobs. Currently, it takes at least a bachelors degree for most jobs. Therefore, people are starting their careers at 22 as opposed to 18, which shifts everything to the right. Personally, I would commit, if I thought we were compatible (emotionally, spiritually, etc). I have never set an age to get married. I have always been open at any age, after 18. Smile

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TSUblueTiger · Apr 2008

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C_Nels wrote:
So don't give up on waiting on your "knight in shining armor" just yet, ladies!

I agree with that statement. Give the brothers an opportunity to find you! We are definitely looking for you! Detective

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NeoSoulBrotha from Rosedale, MD · Apr 2008

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I'm soon to be 27, and marriage is probably not too far in the future... The reason guys usually wait to get married, is usually so we can finish our education, have a stable place to live and good employment, and be able to provide for a family. Or, sometimes it's just waiting for the right person. Just because a couple is dating doesn't mean that person is the one they want to spend a lifetime with. Some dudes just enjoy the single life, or being free to play the field. It's all personal preference. Getting married while living in mama's basement / working a **** end job... not cool. Smile

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smc112 from Laguana Hills, CA · Apr 2008

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Okay, the general consensus is that most guys are waiting to be financially stable. Now, what about guys who are financially stable and way up in their 30’s and still haven’t settled down to get married? On the flip side, what about these guys that have 2 or 3 kids by a woman, and they are living together and he won’t marry her. I see a lot of women that are having children by these men and still don’t have a engagement ring. What’s up with that?

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TSUblueTiger · Apr 2008

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smc112 wrote:
Okay, the general consensus is that most guys are waiting to be financially stable. Now, what about guys who are financially stable and way up in their 30’s and still haven’t settled down to get married? On the flip side, what about these guys that have 2 or 3 kids by a woman, and they are living together and he won’t marry her. I see a lot of women that are having children by these men and still don’t have a engagement ring. What’s up with that?

For guys in their late 30’s, I am not sure about the exact reason. Maybe they are happy with their current lifestyle and don’t want to change. For people that live together, I think they are content with their situation. They are receiving the benefits of a marriage without being married. I am not saying I agree, but that could be the case. Smile