1LUV wrote: Oh another ?? I'm a female who has a 14mth old son and I'm not with the father and am dating. I only want to date/be in a relationship with a guy who has no kids. Although in order to date me he has to be accepting of my son and be a good male figure. I choose to date men with o kids b/c my sons father has two other children and their mother caused so many problems in our relationship and was the root of all the drama between us and I would just choose not to go that route anymore. My question is "Am I wrong for only wanting to date a man with no children even though I'm asking him to accept me with a child?"
I don't think that that its wrong as much as I don't think you're seeing the whole picture. Now, I don't have any kids, but I have been in a situation where I was considering a relationship with someone that has a child. You're so concerned about someone else's baggage... have you ever entertained that notion that perhaps your son's father might cause problems between you and your next man? Have you also not thought about someone who has a child already being able to understand where you're coming from if a problem does arise? Sometimes you might even do something that your son's father considers to be a pestilence If someone is willing to accept you wholly, and love you the way you and your son deserved to be loved- that's a blessing. You shouldn't turn it away.
While dating someone who doesn't have kids, is a preference just like any other trait, I don't think that's a reason that you should deny someone your time. Yes, it does seem quite hypocritical, in the end its still just a preference. You have to date people that you feel would be best for you and your son.
1LUV
from Houston, TX
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Jan 2007
Thanks very much for your insight. Maybe like Kat Williams said, I need to check out what's wrong with me and why I keep attracting aint sh*t **** ni$%as"
1LUV wrote: Why do guys always turn to another woman instead of telling thier woman that things aren't going right or they just don't want to be in a relationship? After an heated arguement between a man and his woman why do the man always ease his mind by going to another woman or calling up some old "hype"???
I don't mean to say this but some males act like ******* when it time to face the truth. I guess mos males are gready and only think bout themselves. I know I don't always go to my gurl and the reason why is cuz its easier to talk to the other chic.. Now after an arguement with my gurl I am going to my boys house to smoke.. The reason why is cuz it eases the pain and make things a lil better. Don't ask how cuz i dont know... it jus do
