Legacy or Not - HBCU CONNECT

Aggie Blues · Jun 2004

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BabyGirl_OES_Aggie wrote:
Crazy4DST wrote:
monkrenny wrote:
Mikeyhotj wrote:
My father crossed a GLO and I was looking into pledging the same thing. I really want to get in on my own Merit rather then using his name to "coast in" would it be more wise to go in as a legacy or to just not mention it. How would they know anyways? And If I decided I want to pledge another organization, would that be looked down on for not following my father's path?
Man I respect you for not wanting to coast in. I can say them same for too many other legacies that i know personally. Also I encourage to do what is right for you. Not ya pops or other folk in your family. Things have changed over time and regardless of what organization your in they all should have the same goal which is service (particulary to the african american community). Do you man, you'll be most effective in a organization that suits you.
^^ Exactly, I mean it's all about you and where you're heart is at...I could have went legacy like my mother and majority of the females in my family and pledged AKA but I would have only done that to please them. I mean don't get me wrong, my mother was not happy at all when I came in the crib sayin' OOO-OOOPPP( she actually thought I was joking)....but she did get over it because i'm still her child with or w/o my naila on.

See I feel you on that one. Now one thing about the whole legacy thing, we know about the clause and everything, but sometimes that type thing just isn't for everyone. My mother is both and Eastern Star and a AKA. Now... the Easter Star thing I chose to go along with and the Mason/OES thing runs deep in my family. But as far as being an AKA, that just was not going down for me. And at my ZETA probate, my mom was my biggest supporter in the FRONT ROW decked out in her own pink and green nalia shouting "that's MY #10 in the blue and white". I guess different stroke for different folks but it makes me SO happy to know that my mom understands i went a different way because it was me and has NOTHING to do with how she influenced my life as my mom. The principles of Zeta are good enough for me and she knows before anything, she's my mom and i'm her child.

Digna · Jun 2004

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Although I am not greek and I am not a legacy, I had to respond to this thread. I know that most parents would love for their children to follow in their footsteps, I know I would, but we all must follow our own path. My daughter would have all of my love and emotional support, if she choose to join a different sorority. But, I would not be able to finacially support her in her decision. Besides the financial support, I could NEVER imagine looking down on my daughter for her decision (I have heard of cases like this). This was wrote to encourage everyone to choose your own path, just put God first in ALL that you do 8)

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Aggie Blues · Jun 2004

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^^^ quick question, why would you not be able to support her? is it because she did not choose the same letters or is it because u want her to "Appreciate" her letters even more by using her own $$$?

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WileECoyote06 · Jun 2004

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I doubt I will pay for my son's choice either way. I think they will appreciate it more. Now with sorority dues reaching $1000 now, I may have to help my daughter. But then again, I really don't care what she pledges (as long as she pledges her mother's org or AKA).

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Aggie Blues · Jun 2004

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WileECoyote06 wrote:
I doubt I will pay for my son's choice either way. I think they will appreciate it more. Now with sorority dues reaching $1000 now, I may have to help my daughter. But then again, I really don't care what she pledges (as long as she pledges her mother's org or AKA).

^^^ I feel ya, I would prolly do the same, mostly b/c I dont want my child to think that everything comes to them on a silver platter and that mommy and daddy will pay for it just beacuse they want it....nah I'mma have too many bills to pay, they lucky if I'm gonna pay for school after freshman year 'cause lord knows my parents stopped filling out those loan papers come sophomore year :lol: :lol: :lol:

Digna · Jun 2004

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Aggie Blues' Question #1: Quick question, why would you not be able to support her? Is it because she did not choose the same letters? - If my daughter really needed the money, then, I would help her out. But, if she is a member of ABC and I am a member of XYZ, I will not just be giving her "donations" to pay her way. She knew what she was getting into before she got into it. Aggie Blues' Question #2: Is it because u want her to "Appreciate" her letters even more by using her own $$$? - I have decided that once I go to college, I MUST be independent. Not saying that I will never need any help, but this is a decision that I have made. Therefore, I want my daughter to be independent as well. As I stated above, if she absolutely needs me, then, I will be there.

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· Jun 2004

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Digna wrote:
Although I am not greek and I am not a legacy, I had to respond to this thread. I know that most parents would love for their children to follow in their footsteps, I know I would, but we all must follow our own path. My daughter would have all of my love and emotional support, if she choose to join a different sorority. But, I would not be able to finacially support her in her decision. Besides the financial support, I could NEVER imagine looking down on my daughter for her decision (I have heard of cases like this). This was wrote to encourage everyone to choose your own path, just put God first in ALL that you do 8)

In my opinion that's just like not supporting her at all...That's like sayin' if your daughter marry a white man you won't pay for the wedding because he's white :? but if she marry a black man you will work 2 jobs, hustle and strip on the side just to make sure she has the best day of her life. :arrow:

Aggie Blues · Jun 2004

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Digna wrote:
Aggie Blues' Question #1: Quick question, why would you not be able to support her? Is it because she did not choose the same letters? - If my daughter really needed the money, then, I would help her out. But, if she is a member of ABC and I am a member of XYZ, I will not just be giving her "donations" to pay her way. She knew what she was getting into before she got into it. Aggie Blues' Question #2: Is it because u want her to "Appreciate" her letters even more by using her own $$$? - I have decided that once I go to college, I MUST be independent. Not saying that I will never need any help, but this is a decision that I have made. Therefore, I want my daughter to be independent as well. As I stated above, if she absolutely needs me, then, I will be there.

Oh ok thanks for the clarification

Aggie Blues · Jun 2004

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Crazy4DST wrote:
Digna wrote:
Although I am not greek and I am not a legacy, I had to respond to this thread. I know that most parents would love for their children to follow in their footsteps, I know I would, but we all must follow our own path. My daughter would have all of my love and emotional support, if she choose to join a different sorority. But, I would not be able to finacially support her in her decision. Besides the financial support, I could NEVER imagine looking down on my daughter for her decision (I have heard of cases like this). This was wrote to encourage everyone to choose your own path, just put God first in ALL that you do 8)
In my opinion that's just like not supporting her at all...That's like sayin' if your daughter marry a white man you won't pay for the wedding because he's white :? but if she marry a black man you will work 2 jobs, hustle and strip on the side just to make sure she has the best day of her life. :arrow:

I dont think it's that extreme :lol: :lol: :lol:

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