smc112 wrote: Good job Sister Tamara. You hit it on the nail. To the young ladies who posted and are virgins, those guys aren't worth your body! If those men left you because you were a virgin they were not the right ones for you anyway. Consider that as protection from God. Sometimes God will close doors to protect you. Your body is precious and it should be reserved for your husband. Like Sister Tamara said, the guys that you lose your virginity to you might not ever hear from them again. So don't give something so precious away to someone who isn't worthy of it. If a man truly loves you, he will put a ring on your finger. Don't ever listen to the lies! If he loves you or cares about you, he will never compromise you! As I'm talking and giving you advice, this is advice for myself! I am not a virgin, but I am a born again virgin and I'm experiencing some of the same type of treatment from guys. They go ghost when you tell them you are holding off until marriage, but I realize that is God's love looking after me. He closes the doors on men that have the wrong motives! They weren't worthy of me anyway. God knows how important relationships are, and he will remove the wrong influences out of your life. My body is reserved for my husband and if a man loves me he will be willing to make that long term commitment to have me, by putting a ring on my finger! That is the true sign to find out if a man loves you or not! If not, you should be like NEXT! And move on to another man!
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
I wanted to add that we have to realize that there are some male virgins and I don't want them to feel left out. In the society that we live in now, a male virgin is like a purple diamond. You know they exist, but you rarely see them. I have much respect for male virgins. Don't get me wrong, I applaud female virgins, but for a male to be abstinate in a society that teaches them to "sow their royal oats" is worth getting excited about. We raise our daughters to save themselves for marriage, but who are they saving themselves for? We need to teach our young males that their bodies are precious too and they don't have to sleep with someone just because they are shaped just right. Or because their boy keep asking them "why they aint hit that?" Females can be just as persistant as males and can make a guy feel like they have to sleep with them. I just want everybody to know (male and female) you don't have to do anything that you don't want to do! If your worried about somebody talking about you or making fun of you than you're in for a rude awakening. People are going to talk about you if you don't do what they want. People are going to talk about you if you do what they want. Let's face it people are always going to be talking. There's a saying that I've put a twist on..."You can please some of the people sometimes, but you'll be a fool trying to please everybody all of the time...so don't be anybody's fool and please yourself all of the time!!!"