Question for the HBCU Fellas

14 replies · 10128 views · Started by LadieK · Jul 2008

LadieK

Since this is for the HBCU Fellas, I have a question. Why is that when a guy has a "good" WOMAN by their side, why do males treat her like she doesn't mean anything to him, but as soon as she is about to leave, males seem to have EVERYTHING to prove, to make her stay?

TSUblueTiger · Jul 2008

#11 Reply

LadieK wrote:
I told him he is going to have me so messed emotionally and mentally, that the next guy who wants to treat me right and love me the correct way, is going to be in for it deep b/c I don't trust males anymore or want to experience love anymore. It brings nothing but pain.

Don’t let your past hurt your future. All guys deserve a clean start. Some men appreciate a good lady. Keep your head up! Thumbup1

C Nels · Jul 2008

#12 Reply

LadieK wrote:
The funny thing about it is, when I do try and leave, he believes its another guy involved and when I say it isn't, he thinks I'm lying. I tell him I'm leaving and going about my business b/c I deserve better and he tells me that he deserves better. It just makes me even madder b/c I'm like, I'm doing so much for you and I don't ask for anything in return. NOTHING. I do all the taking out, paying the bills and other stuff.

I can't be the only one to see the comedy in that line I placed in bold. That weak attempt of his to switch blame is so played that I can only laugh at it. If you're leaving, he can believe and say what he wants. He's the one that has to deal with you being gone. You know the reason why you left him and that should be your only concern. In all actuality you've already left him, you're just there for show right now. He's stringing you along.

C Nels · Jul 2008

#13 Reply

TSUblueTiger wrote:
Don�t let your past hurt your future. All guys deserve a clean start. Some men appreciate a good lady. Keep your head up!

I'll co-sign that for you my good man! Thumbup1

Your reservations with the next man will only put a strain on him. If he's truly a good man he'll recognize what you're going through and would be willing to stay with you and change your impressions about "all men". If and when that happens....Congratulations! Clap

You have found your 100%!

· Apr 2009

#14 Reply

I believe a person will only take you through what you allow them 2. Every female has a breaking point. Regardless of the fact that u love him, that LOVE alone will not sustain a relationship.You have to truly love yourself and respect yourself enough to tha point that you wont allow this type of behavior from him or any other man u become involved with. As a young lady myself I understand that letting go of someone u love isnt tha easiest ****2 do but what are u benefitting from this relationship?Where is this really going 2 go? He might do little things 2 make u feel hes changed or is changing but its only 2 "pacify" you.Dont buy into tha dreams hes selling you. Actions speak louder than words. Tha problem with most females is that we see what we want 2 see and hear what we want to hear. We hold on to false HOPE....and we make EXCUSES 4 men.Its time that you start looking at ****4 what it is and stop settling because you are only shortchangin ya self. Take yourself out of that situation and focus on whos really important and that is YOURSELF.You dont want 2 become a bitter woman at age 20.... Come on now.....We all go through it. Heartbreak and Pain. Loving someone and losing them....Thats why we listen 2 Keyshia Cole n Mary J.Blige lol cuz we relate to tha ****dem b*tches sing about.We all know how it feels and trust me boo hes not gonna be tha last n*99a to take you through bulshyt. Just dont create a pattern 2 follow for tha next n*99a.