But that's the problem with your age group. . . according to Erickson's Psychosocial theory, you're dealing with intimacy vs isolation. However if you have not successfully passed the earlier stage, identity vs role confusion, you are not ready to move into a mature relationship. If you are in college you are more than likely still trying to self-identify; trust me you still have a lot of growing to do between 21 and 24. It's good to want to build with your wife. It's bad to do it before you're established.
My mother told me the day I left for college (years ago), "There are some young women there who are only in school to get married; they are more concerned about finding happiness in a man than in establishing a life for themselves. So don't let your heart fool you. Remember what you are here to do, and make the right choices for your life. " When I reminded her that she was a teenage bride, she responded with "And you have lived deprived of the things you deserved; and I apologize for my mistakes. I applaud your daddy for stepping up and being a good man, and a good father, but you can't get a better example of how NOT to do things. "
That's really personal to me. No, I'm not married; but I have been down that road before and God put a roadblock up. Just know that you know, that you know that you know.
ughhhhh....Yall cannot speak for everyone on this site or even in your age group. and role confusion???? :roll:
ProvAKAtive,
Quote: If you are in college you are more than likely still trying to self-identify; trust me you still have a lot of growing to do between 21 and 24.
I said more than likely. . .and also, not once did I say like most parents or big brothers or uncles would say "YOU'RE MAKING A MISTAKE"!
Quote: ughhhhh....Yall cannot speak for everyone on this site or even in your age group. and role confusion????
That's commonly accepted psychosocial theory. I'm sure you took the class; but just in case:
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Stage 5 - Ego-Identity vs. Role Confusion
This stage of adolescence begins with puberty and continues until about age 18 to 20.
The primary task of this stage is to achieve ego identity and avoid role confusion. Developing one's ego identity requires taking all one has learned about life and oneself and molding it into a unified self-image that is meaningful within the community. Role confusion is a lack of a clear identity. This is often indicated by adolescents asking, "Who am I?"
This is a time of transitioning from childhood into adulthood. It is important that the distinction between the powerless and irresponsible time of childhood is made clear from the powerful and responsible time of adulthood. This rite of passage may be marked by an event, ritual, ceremony, etc.
If a favorable balance is achieved during this stage, then the virtue fidelity will be developed. This means one has found a place in the community in which he/she can make useful contributions and will remain loyal to this group.
