i am SO tired of hearin' this cop-out....

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Greensboro, NC

P o e t i q R e i g n Greensboro, NC

aiight, somethin' else we were talkin' about last night.... how many children we want.... & he was like he wants 3....all boys...no girls... his reason? 'cause females go through too much in life AND because he's come to see that women are hard to live with after age 13 :roll:... okay, 1st of all...by him saying we go through a lot...I'll give him that...'cause it's true...we do....guys do too, but he said somethin' I had never thought about like that....he was like, females get b/s from both sides (both genders)... guys' biggest issues in life are females....they might get hated on by other dudes, but not NEARLY as much as females hate on other females....PLUS how much females gotta go thru with dudes.... i was like, yeah that's true... but i just really hate it when i hear someone say they don't want a certain gender for kids....& it's ALWAYS not wantin' daughters...i've heard so many females say they don't want any girls - just boys...'cause girls have too many issues, have to experience too much pain, or whatEVa...& just blah blah blah... i told the friend i was talkin' to last night that watch he mess around & have 3 girls, lol....& had me laughin'....but @ the same time SURRiously disturbed, lol...when he was talkin' about some...if the first child is a girl, he's gonna just stop, ****...i was like WTF?!?!? then he said if the first is a boy & the 2nd's a girl, he'll stop there :roll:...i was like damn...DAMN shame... i hope none of u r like this....but anyway, jus' had ta vent real quick :arrow:

AggieSweetie07 · Jul 2004

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* $ MiLa $ * wrote:
AggieSweetie07 wrote:
i have a friend who is like this...she says she only wants boys, if she has a girl she gonna give it away or sumthin....
Now thats just plain IGNORANT. SHe said she is gonna give the baby away if its a girl. :roll: :roll: With an attitude like that she doesnt need to have kids.... :arrow:

i know i was thinking the same thing... :roll: so sad... :twisted: :arrow:

La · Jul 2004

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P o e t i q R e i g n wrote:
you don't think your son is gonna come out the same way?? whatever karma you're afraid of is gonna happen, regardless of the gender, miss mila....whatever's meant to be will be carried out...male OR female.... and then...what if your parents wanted a boy instead of you...& God gave them the wish... same with me & my parents...i mean, there's a possibility that i'd still be here...but i'd be a guy instead...but there's also the possibility that i might not've been born @ all the time that i was...or to the family i was... & plus...i love being a female, personally ...lol i mean, yeah we go through a WHOLE lot...but i think that's just part of being human.... and your daughter might end up being the first woman president...ya never know....

Thats true with the karma whether it be boy or girl...but I rather see my son have some of my more rebelilious characteristics than my daughter cause in most cases you expect your son to be rebellious and act out anyway...so it wouldnt bother me as much...It make not make sense, but it does to me... And as far as if my parents wanted a boy and not me...lol...it doesnt matter..Im already here anyway...and if my mom said to me she was hoping that she had a boy....that wouldnt bother me either cause I know she loves me...she just had her preference of what gender child she wanted...but instead..God gave her me...and she is happy with what God gave her me... And I love being a female also, but at the same time as females we have it so much harder. My mom even told me that if I was a boy she wouldnt have been as **** me the way she is now. I just personally think in many ways its alot easier being a guy than a girl. but thats just my opinion...and its not that I dont want a daughter...I do, but like ur friend....I just dont wanna deal with the baggage that we females carry sometimes...I know when I was going thru puberty my parents couldnt stand me cause I was so emotional, irritable, and had an attitude...and I dont wanna really wanna go thru that with my own daughter... But like I said before...I want a girl, but I dont really care what God blesses me with cause there are gonna be pros and cons to having whatever gender child...

In Rod We Trust · Jul 2004

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I think it shouldnt have anything to do w/ wanting a boy or a girl.... I think the way your child turns out is your fault..because YOU raised em right?? I believe if u lead you child in the right direction..be open with them..don't have a strick hand on em all the time..let em kno right from wrong..and let them make their own mistakes then it should be cool.... Its amazing to me how many females say they only want boys..well I only want a boy if I KNOW the father is going to be around.... I think thats the worst thing for a boy to grow up w/o his father...as well as a girl..... Not saying that they will turn out any type of way...but Ok use me for an example..Im close to my mother AND father..but they divorced or whatever..but once they got divorced they agreed that they would always have a friendship because of me...... And i turned out pretty damn good....I didnt give my mother any boy grief or anything like that because i was RAISED CORRECTLY.. Most parents have kids and then let them raise themselves...or something..but if your fuccked up in any kinda way jus look at ya moms and dad...cuz its partly they fault :roll:

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P o e t i q R e i g n from Greensboro, NC · Jul 2004

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* $ MiLa $ * wrote:
P o e t i q R e i g n wrote:
you don't think your son is gonna come out the same way?? whatever karma you're afraid of is gonna happen, regardless of the gender, miss mila....whatever's meant to be will be carried out...male OR female.... and then...what if your parents wanted a boy instead of you...& God gave them the wish... same with me & my parents...i mean, there's a possibility that i'd still be here...but i'd be a guy instead...but there's also the possibility that i might not've been born @ all the time that i was...or to the family i was... & plus...i love being a female, personally ...lol i mean, yeah we go through a WHOLE lot...but i think that's just part of being human.... and your daughter might end up being the first woman president...ya never know....
Thats true with the karma whether it be boy or girl...but I rather see my son have some of my more rebelilious characteristics than my daughter cause in most cases you expect your son to be rebellious and act out anyway...so it wouldnt bother me as much...It make not make sense, but it does to me... And as far as if my parents wanted a boy and not me...lol...it doesnt matter..Im already here anyway...and if my mom said to me she was hoping that she had a boy....that wouldnt bother me either cause I know she loves me...she just had her preference of what gender child she wanted...but instead..God gave her me...and she is happy with what God gave her me... And I love being a female also, but at the same time as females we have it so much harder. My mom even told me that if I was a boy she wouldnt have been as **** me the way she is now. I just personally think in many ways its alot easier being a guy than a girl. but thats just my opinion...and its not that I dont want a daughter...I do, but like ur friend....I just dont wanna deal with the baggage that we females carry sometimes...I know when I was going thru puberty my parents couldnt stand me cause I was so emotional, irritable, and had an attitude...and I dont wanna really wanna go thru that with my own daughter... But like I said before...I want a girl, but I dont really care what God blesses me with cause there are gonna be pros and cons to having whatever gender child...

lol @ TAB...i agree w/ most of what u were sayin'.....the parents do have a great deal in the outcome of the child.... as 4 Mila's response....I feel and respect what ya sayin'....I mean at least you aren't on the same extreme level as my friend...and agree that his mindset about that is just....well, ****, for lack of better word, lol... personally...i feel as though that "stage" you were referring to...is inevitable....i know i went through that same stage, man...it's terrible...the 13 to maybe 16 or 17 year-old stage....****...'cause u just feel so agitated, upset, & so forth about EVERYthing - esPECially your family...& you just clash with them so much....and you feel like no one understands....and you're so into having your own privacy and independance, etc. etc... but see, my brother is 16...and i've seen him go through the exact same thing.....he can be so FREAKIN' ANNOYING, and i know that's how i was at that age - it's so eerie....& that's why i have the outlook that i do....that everything everyone seems to be so afraid of with having daughters is the same they should be afraid of with having sons.... & you say that we have it harder....i've often thought the same thing, but when i've actually sat to reeeally think about it....i think i can fairly say it's tied....'cause i don't know - i just think about all of the pressures and expectations set by society - let alone, parents and family...not to mention friends, peers, etc...that guys have to go through...we have the same pressures & expectations, but i don't think it's to the extreme as with them.... & i know for a fact that my mother is more protective of me STILL as a 19 year-old female...in comparison to my 16 YEAR-OLD brother....yeah it ****...but (although she'll never know this & i'd still contest to a certain degree), i see where she's more worried and concerned about me..... i hate that females have to experience that double-standard, but i look at it like oh well...despite the wrongness of it, i still want to know what it feels like to raise my own girls...do things my own way, ya know... but damn, lol...i've rambled as well...anywayz tho...like i said, mila...i respect your opinion about the situation...different strokez 4 different folkz, once again... guess we'll see how it all turns out....

· Jul 2004

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Bottom line: I dont care what my kid comes out as...I'll still love him/her/it just the same, because thats my seed. Anyone who thinks differently should have their mind checked.

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· Jul 2004

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I would like to have a girl .. Just not first .. I would like a boy first then the girl .. Im kind of old fashioned in that sense (Big brother lookin over his younger sister)

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In Rod We Trust · Jul 2004

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I want my kids in this order.... Girl Boy Girl... I dunno why but look. The dude gonna protect his sisters even thought one older than him and the girls the oldest so she can give advice cuz everybody knows females give some good **** advice. But hey if it dont happen like that imma be fine wit it

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· Jul 2004

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Wel i personaly wouldnt mind havin girl... i just want to make sure she has a father around to help out

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natalie_g · Jul 2004

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one of my friends said if he has a girl when they hit puberty he's gonna send them away. saying something about how girls are freaks and he doesn't want his daughter to be that way or something.

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· Jul 2004

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I always wanted two boys because i saw females as too much hovering over and i've seen how females get harassed on the daily and i'de have to shoot somebody for messing with my daughter but if i do have one it'll probably be a whole different story.