What should a sista DO!?!?!?!?

32 replies · 6150 views · Started by justiFIYAHble · Jul 2004

Try to work it out.. well.. actually, ask him point blank if he has someone in mind... I would take the break.. I mean.. If you let it go and it comes back to you, ITS YOURS..... If y'all don't get back together, then he wasn't the one for you.... check the siggy

· Jul 2004

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He might want to just take a break because he doesn't want to cheat on you or vice versa. I mean there may not be anyone he's with at the present...but just in case he slips somewhere down the line there wouldn't be a relationship in jeopardy because of that. <---that could also how he feels if you slip up. I have a long distance relationship...8 hours from home; 10.5 hours at school. The relationship takes a lot of maturity, a lot of communication, and alot of perserverance. The only reason why I chose to get involved with it is because I feel that down the line something beneficial would come from it. If I had the SLIGHTEST doubt I would have backed out a long time ago. I know that if it doesn't work out...our FRIENDSHIP won't be jeopardized. Boundaries have to be set. And sometimes you have to be a little lenient with it...I mean we're talking about 3-4 years where you're away from each other the majority of the time. You just have to be true to yourself. And know your personal limitations. If you're one that needs to cuddle every other day...then a long distance relationship is not for you. You're setting yourself up for failure off the back.

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La · Jul 2004

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^^^^ OH DAMN

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lostsquishy · Jul 2004

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* $ MiLa $ * wrote:
^^^^ OH DAMN

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jadekiss · Jul 2004

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Ultra Squish wrote:
* $ MiLa $ * wrote:
^^^^ OH DAMN
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Aww shyt....

Blutifully Human from Washington, DC · Jul 2004

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ok, i know that i'm gonna get alot of flack for this one, but i'm gonna play the devil's advocate and tell u to just do what u feel is best in your heart. Actually, first i think it is important that u get some answers and clear all of these doubts in your head. Just be real and ask him if he's havin doubts on being faithful, and if he's doubting your ability to be faithful as well. Cuz, if he's already been in college a year, and now that you're going, this is all of a sudden a big issue...the sumthin's wrong. If there is no trust, then there really is no point in being together. HOWEVER, although everyone is saying that you're young, and in your prime, and will have plenty of options at school, i still believe that if you love this guy and feel in your heart that he is the one for you...then u should hold on to it. You're not guaranteed to find your soulmate in college, so don't think that you have to be on the prowl. My stance is, if you already have steak...why waste time on spam?

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Blutifully Human from Washington, DC · Jul 2004

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BellaMocha wrote:
Ultra Squish wrote:
* $ MiLa $ * wrote:
^^^^ OH DAMN
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Aww shyt....

Blutifully Human from Washington, DC · Jul 2004

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1stLadyofDaSWAC wrote:
kndhrtd1@theREALHU wrote:
ok, i know that i'm gonna get alot of flack for this one, but i'm gonna play the devil's advocate and tell u to just do what u feel is best in your heart. Actually, first i think it is important that u get some answers and clear all of these doubts in your head. Just be real and ask him if he's havin doubts on being faithful, and if he's doubting your ability to be faithful as well. Cuz, if he's already been in college a year, and now that you're going, this is all of a sudden a big issue...the sumthin's wrong. If there is no trust, then there really is no point in being together. HOWEVER, although everyone is saying that you're young, and in your prime, and will have plenty of options at school, i still believe that if you love this guy and feel in your heart that he is the one for you...then u should hold on to it. You're not guaranteed to find your soulmate in college, so don't think that you have to be on the prowl. My stance is, if you already have steak...why waste time on spam?
This is basically how I feel...I'm not really worried about him cheatin...he's more worried about me cheating. He even admitted to that...and at first I was like f**k breaking up...we gone work this out...and then I thought about it...I know that now when I got out I flirt but it never goes any further than that...and I know for a fact tha he does tha same. His whole thing is that I'll be in a whole new environment wit no family or anything to look after me...While he was gone he has an Aunt that lives right next to tha school so if he ever needed to get away and escape everything he could just go there. I don't have that in JSU so I know I'ma result to goin out...I know this because I do it here at home...for example...a nukkah finna go out in exactly an hour..because this situation has me stressed out. It's just tha way he says Sh*t sometimes...he's one of them cats who's motto is..."Just Live" He could say one thing but he is so damn nonchalant about Sh*t that when he tries to actually be serious it's like he's scared or sum Sh*t...so whatever he says may come out negative. To put it in a more simpler from...he's basically tryna do this to get himself from being hurt...it's not really about him hurting me. And the christmas break thing...that's how long we plan to see how this "break" pans out. Like when he comes home and I come home we'll talk about it to see if things are really what we expect...if tha relationship is really worth workin out over the years and if we really are meant to be If we are then of course we'll get back together and continue just like we used to do...but if not...then we'll just have to move on...This is basically just for the first semester...enough time for me to get all of my BS out of my system as he says

Well hun, if u know in your heart of hearts that you're willing to make it work. I say go for it. Ensure him that you love him and he's the only one u want, will want, and that u wouldn't hurt him. HOWEVER, if u have even a speck of doubt that temptation might be a bit too strong or that there is even the slightest possibility that u might do something or wanna get with someone else...then i say give the whole thing a break. It's wiser to do that now and prevent heartache later on down the line.

natalie_g · Jul 2004

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i say ask him why he wants the break and then i really would take it cause like he said he's been through it and at least he's looking out for you at least that's the way it seems

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FutureSpelmanCutie from Los Angeles, CA · Jul 2004

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I know it's good to hear everyone's advice but I say just follow what's really in your heart because what happened/worked for everyone else might not necessarily work for you. My boyfriend and I talk about this constantly and we still have another year to go. Everyone has advice but listening to all of their different opinions just confuses me. The best advice I have ever gotten was from a waitress who was listeneing to me and my mom's conversation about it. She said so it until you can't do it anymore. That way, if he is the one for you, you didn't let it go and if he's not then at least you can't have any regrets. That's just my take. Good luck!

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· Jul 2004

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* $ MiLa $ * wrote:
^^^^ OH DAMN

Now what is that all about. I'm just asking the girl a question. I'm not trying to start anything. Ya'll trying to start some drama!!!!!

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