Why it is hard to find a good man / woman... The Truth

NeoSoulBrotha wrote:

After hearing this discussion yet again, I will attempt to finally put this to rest. Why is it hard to find a good man or woman? Simply... Because you cannot have a mature relationship with an immature person. It takes time for a person's character to develop. Until it does, they may or may not be single, and may or may not be seeking a relationship. Whether they are ready for it mentally is another thing. So, in order to make a good partner they have to go through a growth process. Once they have matured, they generally do not remain single very long. However, since the majority of people around them are immature , they become discouraged. But once they find a satisfying relationship they remain there, and are now off the market. Think about it like an apple tree. The majority of apples on a tree at any given time will not be good for eating. They may be too small, too young, or not ripe. Plus the messed up ones left behind by everyone else. The truth is that the ripe ones are the first to be picked. So they aren't on the tree for very long. It's timing, you have to catch one after it matures and before someone else gets to it which means the odds are always against you. Being single and mature means you are in transition , which is why it is so hard to find people like yourself. When you look around, most of the people you see aren't ready. But you are now a desired item, and your time will come soon. My attempt to break it down. 8) Holla!