um... growing up white then going to an HBCU?
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Started by DoingBigThings
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Feb 2005
What's up people.... I just joined the board today, and was reading some of the older posts and actually saw alot of posts on this topic and wanted to ask something about it.
Basically up until I was around 10 I had all black friends, was just a typical black dude. Then my mom ended up moving to some preppy white town, which I had no control over. Over time i started to change more and more due to obvious reasons... i started having white friends, and taking interest in things not considered 'black'.
So I had no problem with this for a long time, just was nice to have friends in a new area and people to do stuff with. But now that im getting older... im realizing the reality of how white people are... such as white girls from these preppy towns not being interested in talking to a black dude, or white guys just looking at you as some **** tryin to intrude into their culture. So I find myself wanting to go to a black college now... i guess u can say im sick of being around white people (it was never my decision in the first place, i just had to adapt).
My question is.... did anyone else here grow up in a situation like this and find it hard to fit in at a black school. I'm worried about going there and then not fitting in because im not 'black enough'. I adapt pretty well to people around me so I figure after being there a while i'd eventually fit in fine.... but at first i'd feel like its a culture shock to some extent.
Just would like to hear some experiences with black people growing up around white people and then going to an HBCU... or hell, even if u didnt grow up in a situation like that, you probably could still tell me what you see at your own school and what its like for you. Like... do you know anyone that you're cool with that acts 'white'... or would you be the type to say 'i'm not talking to no preppy **** n*ggas". Be real... im tryin to hear the truth.
I'm also confused on how I should act if I did go to a HBCU.. ofcourse people gonna say just be yourself, but its possible to be yourself all while trying to fit in to some extent. If a dude was to try and fit in and hang around you off some Carlton type sh*t.. he'd obvoiusly get clowned (im not white to that extent but jus saying), so it just seems that its common sense to try and relate to people and if they can't relate to yo **** talking about some sh*t like going snowboarding, why even bring it up.
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Well son I was once put in a situation like this before. My mother grew up in the ghetto and she was raised around nuthan but ****... Everyday she had to bust her A$$ just to make sure I had everything I needed as a child. One day she decided that living in the Ghetto was not an experience that she wanted me to experience so we moved to the Burbs. Everybody around me had both mama and daddy except foe my a$$. I thought I did not fit but as time went by I started to meet people who experienced some of the same things.
Hey just because you are talented and was raised around white folks does not mean that you are white. When white folks look at you they still see a black man and nothing else. I'm pretty sure you will be fit in at a HBCU.
P.Diddy went to HARVARD and now look at that man. Do you think he cared about what folks thought about him?
Hell NAW!!!!
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TSUNATIBOI wrote:Well son I was once put in a situation like this before. My mother grew up in the ghetto and she was raised around nuthan but ****... Everyday she had to bust her A$$ just to make sure I had everything I needed as a child. One day she decided that living in the Ghetto was not an experience that she wanted me to experience so we moved to the Burbs. Everybody around me had both mama and daddy except foe my a$$. I thought I did not fit but as time went by I started to meet people who experienced some of the same things. Hey just because you are talented and was raised around white folks does not mean that you are white. When white folks look at you they still see a black man and nothing else. I'm pretty sure you will be fit in at a HBCU. P.Diddy went to HARVARD and now look at that man. Do you think he cared about what folks thought about him? Hell NAW!!!!


Brother I think you have your schools mixed up 