MiSs_OeS wrote: Aight...Im bout to get real honest with yall right quick...as honest as Ill ever be on this issue that is, and as respectful as I can....
My ORIGINAL interest came my junior year of high school when I was on a black college tour and one of our stops was at Alabama State...and one of our tour guides happen to be a member of XYZ and she was really nice and whatnot...and I noticed how during the tour she ran into some of her sorors and how they greeted each other and just seemed to have a lotta love between each other. So thats what sparked my interest in sororites from jump and then i started research about her org and from then I had a genuine interest in it and being able to do it...
Fast forwarding about 3 and a half years later where im at now in life...About to be a junior in college and still not having really " pursued " becoming XYZ like I thought I would...I have no problem with really saying this, but Im not as passionate as I was before...And in reading alot of the things on this board...I question if its worth it FOR ME...and thats not to say things I have read on this board have negatively swayed my decision to not really go after being XYZ, but its DEFINITELY made me look at things at another angle...an angle that I needed to see it from. And aside from that...just seeing how greek life at FAMU is nothing more than a popularity contest and a WHO'S WHO of SGA .... I dont wanna say that I dont wanna be apart of that organization...I just dont want to be apart of the things I see go on. Of course I am looking from the outside in and things may be very different on the inside, but thats all I can go by is what I see, because im not " in. "
And the irony of the situation is that I just KNEW my freshmean year at FAM i was gonna IG and get to know people of that org, and I originally had no interest whatsoever in doing OES or researching about it...And in becoming friends with Masons and Stars it sparked my interest to learn about that, and I eventually pursued that and did what I had to do and got initiated. And as a freshmanI also think I was intimadated with trying to get to know the members of that org at the time because " discretion " and not wanting to be SOOO obvious that your interested and it made me take a step back...Cause at that time I was just completely unsure of what a wrong or right move was in expressing interest...so i didnt, while with OES its completely different. If you interested you just say it. " 2 b 1 ask 1 " its that simple as far as just expressing interest along with doin personal research. I mean 2 years later and in seein how things are done I think Im pretty confident about the correct protocol of being an aspirant expressing interest...but at that time I wasnt.
And now that I have joined the Order pursuing greekdom just isnt as important to me as it was before. Im still very interested ( if i werent I wouldnt be on this board every day ) but my passion to do it has dwindled alot. I have alotta respect for the D9 but if I were to do it I would prolly do it on the graduate level...And it has NOTHING to do with the " process " ...I went thru OES...lol. And it has nothing to do with the actual XYZ sorority. It just has to do with what I see go on with the chapters on my campus, and it makes me question alot...
And its funny...cause I can recall how many times Laidback typed on this board " greek life isnt for everyone or you dont understand greek life til your in " or sumthing to that effect...and that may be the case...
But right now at the point where I am in my life...I can honestly say that Im not sure if being Greek is for me. Atleast not right now...maybe later on in life.
Sorry for being longwinded...
Wow, that's deep. I have Sorors who are OES so I know it's not about that, but I applaud your honesty girl.
I'm nosy, PM me the org you were refering to :-D
Pearlfection wrote: sOuLsTaR wrote: GDI's: What/Who is your motivation to pursue* membership into the organization you are interested in?
*Replying discretion is advised
To tell you the truth, I really didn't think I would be interested in any fraternity because I'm not really the pledging type. However the organization I am pursuing truly has my ideals and values in mind and I really like what they do around the campus. After doing much research I finally figured that this is something I really want to be apart of.
Quick question about that discretion thing, if we're "supposed" to be all discreet and stuff, why do a lot of white schools have a Rush? I mean you pretty much know what everyone wants to do then.
No problem, basically I just mean that I never really saw myself pledging any fraternity. I love seeing Greek Life and it really intrigues(sp?) me but I never saw MYSELF joining a fraternity.......until I got to know a member of XYZ and did research on the organization and went to the interest meeting...lol
Well... I don't really know where to begin... I don't know when I first realized that I wanted to become an AKA. My earliest memory of it is at some point in high school where I realized that my Vice Principal was a Delta and I thought to myself, I wonder how she'll feel when I come back as an AKA. My desire to join AKA predates my desire to join Howard (its a process too guys, for real)... which I first discovered when I was around 15/16... so me and AKA go way back. :grin: I remember when people found out that I wanted to do AKA (i had a vague idea of discretion, but only because I didn't really know about the whole process) they always pegged me as a Delta because I'm brown-skinned and down-to-earth :???: I only they knew :lol:
I honestly can't vocalize what drew me to AKA. But it was always in my heart from Day 1, I truly can't explain. I don't have anything against Delta, Zeta or SGRho, they're all wonderful orgs that have done immeasurable good for the black race... it just wasn't in my heart.
I hate it when girls tell me that they are joining one organization because they have something against another: "I'm doing AKA because they Delta's are too serious all the time" "I'm doing Zeta because AKA's are airheads". Sorority A should not have any bearing on your decision to join Sorority B. Don't join GHI because you heard bad things about the history of MNO. It isn't hurting MNO, so why try to spite them? I have had 2 younger girls tell me that they want to do XYZ because AKA's are stuck-up and lightskinned and color-struck. I was dumb-struck. It's 2005. I sincerely hope that these girls have deeper reasons because if not, they are truly shortchanging themselves by seeking an organization based on their dislike of another.
Okay. Im going to make this brief, because this is a topic I can talk all day about... Mostly because I can rarely speak on it. I have so many feelings about this organization, and there is so much information stored in my head, I feel as if it may explode... :-D (this smiley's head looks as if it's going to explode doesn't it...lol)
My motivation to join sorority 678, is rooted in a mixture of things.
1. I have several fine examples of women in this organization (relatives, family friends, as well as politicians, celebrities, and activists) most of whom I admire and model myself after.
2. I love what they have done for African-Americans and women, and the programs they have established for our youth.
3. I would absolutely cherish an opportunity to be apart of an organization filled with current and future, movers and shakers of, not only the Black community, but the world. I hope to influence the world someday myself. Even if I am a positive force within my community, I would still be content.
4. I WANT TO BE surrounded by educated, goal-oriented, pragmatic, optimistic, independent, ambitious, concerned women (who are like myself). My mother taught me that if you want to get anywhere in life, you must soar with the eagles (because there is no limit to where they can go). She said clucking with the chickens will get you nowhere!!!
I never paid much attention to that until high school, and ever since I have begun to take it seriously, I have discovered the huge amount of truth that lies behind it.
5. I have researched the other 3 sororities, and though they have accomplished much and I have much respect for them.... They just don't hold a PLACE IN MY HEART the way sorority 678 does. I could never picture myself as anything else. I have so many ideas of ways I can contribute to this organization.
6. Some of members of this sorority on my campus have served as mentors to me over the past year. This first young woman I met on my campus was a member. I was visiting FAMU for the first time in March 2004, and was nervous that I would not fit in.
My mother and I attended a dance recital we saw advertised on campus, and we bumped into her. We acknowledged each other, and went into conversation. I told her I was nervous about attending FAMU, and she reassured me. I kept in touch with her, and she gave my information to several of her sorors. They gave me rides when I needed them, and just answered questions for me when I needed answers. They were some of the most down-to-earth women I met during my first year of school, despite popular belief.
7. This is getting long, so Ima wrap things up in one phrase.....
I FEEL THE SPIRIT OF THIS ORGANIZATION IN THE BLOOD THAT RUNS THROUGH MY VEINS!!!!
I strive to be a role model for young girls everyday. I take care of my younger cousins, all of them are girls except one, and try my best to steer them into the direction in which they should go. I love to have a positive impact on others lives, just as so many other women have impacted mine!
Okay I needed to let some things off my chest. Continue people....
