"Doing Research"

My nephew just let me know this topic had been reactivated to show me that I don't know what I am talking about when I give him "advice". There are many Greeks in his family and we are baffled by all this new stuff. Back in the day. you went to the interest meeting, wrote your letter of interest and waited to hear back. You got a letter saying you were accepted or rejected, for example ,because you did not have the required GPA. If you were accepted you went to the meeting where you were told the cost, length of "pledging". met the DP, etc. You did not have to "know or do" anything before that time. You learned everything you needed to know AFTER you were accepted. Which is why I don't get the need to research and know the protocol before that time. Why learn all about history, founders, etc. BEFORE you you know if you are going to be accepted or not ? I told him he did not need to do anything UNTIL he gets something in writing saying yes, come to room 220 at 8 pm on this date for more information. He says I am wrong and it appears he MAY be right.Is this like "pre pledging" for lack of a better term because pledging has been banned by National .

I agree wth everything you said. I attended a HBCU and I know how serious it is. I agree there is more information available than ever and yes, you should know the basics. People also make decisions by how they view chapters/ members on their campus, reputations/ stereotypes of organizations or family tradition, etc. What I don't see is,studying, being tested, grilled ( like pledging) without knowing if you're going to be "one". What do you do with all that knowledge if you are not chosen, other than be ****. Seems like system where kids can be misled,used and abused all for naught.

OKKK, but this old 20 Pearl Girl prefers the old method. Clean, cut and dried. not so "Iffy"