I don't call a guy my big brother unless he say we like family or she my little sister and that only happen once. But wen I don't like a guy or I don't want him to get the wrong idea that i'm attracted t him I just tell him none of that oh we just friends or big brother crap cause I know I would hate it if a dude I wanted would come out wit that crap. But I can only speak for mysef I don't know how other females hande they situation. even if a guy is protective like a big broter would be, I would be like he my best friend....until he stated claiming me as a little sister or part of the family.
Kismet_TNT wrote: Kool it depends on the famale. For me personally I have never been the one to use the "big brother" phrase. But I have used the "friend" word. It's not a bad thig nor does it mean that nothing will ever come of it. Personally I would rather become real good friends with a person b4 I get with him. This will allow me to see how he treats women and get to know him on a different level. Then if or when we decide to get together on a more intimatem or what-have-u level, I will know what 2 expect. I have met a guy who I had no interest in what so ever. He was just mad cool and I loved the friendship. He was attracted to me and wanted more, but I was like no we are just friends. To make a long story short he ended up growing on me. I started to like him for more than a friend just because I got to see the type of person he really is. So Kool don't let the "friend"/"big brother" thig get in ur way. Patience is a virtue.
Took da words out of my mouth!
Well not all girls are the same.
I can only give the original poster my opinion based on my personal experiences.
It is my opinion that if you don't experience something, you don't think its possible.
Like how I'm a female, and I grew up with my daddy. I thought everyone had a daddy too. But this wasn't the case.
Well, I've never had a brother. And every guy I meet, I treat as my potential stand-in brother or friend but that's all.
Setting aside petty crushes, I've never been shown emotions (not that I've noticed anyway), so I didn't properly develop emotions.
Maybe the girls you are meeting are hard as stone, but even rock wears out with enough rain.....
....so get creative, and become the very thing that melts her heart in a spot she didn't know existed....and you'll have an incestuous, i mean, a non-brother/sister obstacle standing in the way of your relationship.
((also, she might just be frontin to see what you'd react like. some girls know who they like but don't say anything because they are afraid of something and just pull the brother card)).
Kool 2k6 wrote: ...what do you do, personally? Do you play along with the 'friends' garbage, do you keep trying to hit (or date or what-have-you), or do you avoid her altogether?
I've met too many chicks and ended being somebody gotdamn "big brother"... :x
But on the flipside (so no one gets it twisted), I've had my fair share of, umm, well....interested females. Good times. Most of them just didn't work out, one way or another...or moved back home and stuff.
But ladies....this big brother shyt's is for the birds. I avoid that mess like the plague. Being "big brother" or "friend"=being "useless".
Discuss.
If we were cool before I tried to push-up, we'll still be cool.
Otherwise I bounce.
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