NeoSoulBrotha wrote: I haven't noticed a major effect in terms of lifestyle, although it has come up in discussion. Being light-complexioned, I can't say that I have noticed any variance in treatment or opportunity over other Blacks, either from Blacks or Whites. If there is, it is usually attributable to some other aspect of behavior. There is the usual experience of people not considering you "Black enough" which is an entirely different topic.
I actually think that light-complexioned Black men have somewhat of a disadvantage over dark-complexioned Black men at times. I can't speak from a woman's perspective, though. Holla!
Cot damn, I like this brotha. We need to talk sometime or somethin... He hit it on the head. I think that the only reason a light skinned person would have an advantage in life is because of self consciousness of darker skinned people.
Therefore, its all in your head! What's more, I'd actually like nothing more than to have a
caramel skinned

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or
chocolate skinned

:twisted:
princess at my side...
But that's besides the point... In the 20th century, we have to get it out of our heads that one colour is inferior to the other. If you walk into a place with the confidence that you can do the job (if you actually can to the job), or that you can get the guy, then chances are your skin tone will have nothing to do with it, as far as things are concerned with black people.
well from my point of view...i am brown skin and although my parents are beautiful dark people, 'peacilly my daddy who i adore i almost ALWAYS go for light skin guys... i never would say id only date them or that i purposely just choose them but they are always the ones i date and am attracted to...i dunno why. but i do like any shade if they are attractive as ive said. i guess skin tones for sum people just fit in as a peference like height or hair length.
saffire03 wrote: sometime people compliment me and say your a pretty dark skinned girl , like its ver y rare fot there to be a pretty dark skinned girl.
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Yeah, I definitely feel you on this one. Or boys will be like, "Yeah, you black, but you got nice hair." WTF? First, why does hair matter so much to Black people? I'm about to cut it all off, because it should not matter to me either. Second, WTF do you mean, "YOU BLACK?" Aren't we all?... I'm sorry for cursing, but it took me a long time to get comfortable in my skin. Kids are ruthless, lol... and they made it highly difficult to be a little black girl. To all the dark-skinned girls out there, don't turn into Pecola Breedlove clones.... check out Toni Morrison if you have no idea what I'm talking about.
The amount of confidence, ambition, and determination you have all determine how far you will go in life...
I dont think light-skinned blacks have an advantage over darkskinned blacks because we are all living in the same hoods, standin in the same unemployment lines, and we were all hanged on the same trees...
White people see anyone who is not white as a minority (and to many whites being a minority in still synonymous with being inferior) and I dont think they sit behind desks and hire light-skinned blacks over dark-skinned blacks.... that's just ludicrous.
Now as a "light-skindeded," African-american female with long hair... It seems that all my life I have had to prove that I was not stuck up (Im one of the most down-to-earth, outspoken, and outgoing people u will meet). I mean people meet you and already label you as conceited or whatever.
I have met hella dark-skinned girls with bad, stuck-up **** attitudes but they barely ever get called out. When your light-skinned its like u gotta prove you're hard and sh*t which used to be annoying when I was younger...
Or when dudes like you its because "She lightskinned with long hair" not because I am confident, intelligent, and/or well-grounded...
In the North, I dont see this as much of an issue as it is down South.
But Ion worry about it, I jus gon dust ma shoulders off... keep doin what Im doin.... And if light-skinned girls "go outta style" like light-skinned brothers supposedly did.... Who in hell cares, b/c I dont want anybody who sees complexions as something that can go in and out of style to say a damn thing to me. Because to be blunt about it.... THA SH*T IS STUPID!
WileECoyote06 wrote:
<==dealing with the caramel curse and very openly pining for a beautiful dark skinned princess so I might purify my bloodline.
That is one of the realest statements I have ever heard in my life. PERIOD.....TOO REAL :cry:
Now some of yall as bad as tha people who say, "I need a light bright man/woman wit good hair so ma baby's will be pretty..." It's all shallow...
I had a roommate at the Univ. of Michigan who was Nigerian. For four weeks, I had to hear this broad complain about how she only wanted to marry another Nigerian b/c she didnt want her child to be polluted by African-american blood... She told me I had too many European features, and that I was closer to white than black... She said ma blood was polluted with that of the white man's and that pretty soon there will be no more "true" black people, b/c of people like my grandparents...
Now I tried ma best not to snap on this girl... I didnt tell her exactly how I felt about her, b/c I realized she was insecure and nothing I could have said to her would get through her thick skull...