hand shaking - HBCU CONNECT

· Dec 2004

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laidbackfella wrote:
My previous comments were in regards to Interest Meetings. Of course at a Mix and Mingle I will interact with folks.
Ms.SoDamnAmazing wrote:
Hmm i dunno.... I mean how would you be mis-leading them by shaking their hands? I think they are MIS-leading themselves if they think " Oh she shook my hand so I'm in"... Thats their fault for assuming....and if they ever came to me and said " Well you shook my hand....blah blah"... :idea: I'd tell them ..." You know what people say about those who assume right?"
Which is why I don't shake hands at an interest meeting at all. Don't start none, won't be none.
Maia wrote:
A simple handshake is considered "dapin" you up "for some cool points"? :?

In some minds. You'd be surprised at what people will do to earn cool points from members of organizations and other aspirants before, during and especially after an interest meeting. In my mind it's less about them earning cool points from me or my frat. But moreso from those that they are going through whatever "process" with.

19OesAggie20 wrote:
I REALLY don't think something as simplistic as hand shake means more than "hi...how r u?" Thats some of the problems we encounter with "Greeks" "Non-Greeks" "tryin to be down" and so on and so forth. Everything isn't about the organization at first glace.... u think maybe they were just being polite. So if people come to thee meetings and DON'T speak..are they not being rude??

Yes, that would be rude. All I need an interest to do is to acknowledge my presence with a time appropriate salutation and sit down and take in this information.

· Dec 2004

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This is kinda funny... Why is that you are concerned about shaking someones hand? This is simple....you want to get down then you play the game.....I am not going to shake your hand....you want what I have and at an interest meeting you need to get know everyone in the room....They are not happy to meet you.....They are not sure if you are dime dropper or just trying to skate through....So just play the game.....

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asweetie06 from baltimore, MD · Dec 2004

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some of yall are just rude.... a hand shake is a part of good maners... maybe i have been out of school too long... but its not that deep... its like speaking... Hello, how are you? smh

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laidbackfella from Orangeburg, SC · Dec 2004

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asweetie06 wrote:
some of yall are just rude....

You are right. We don't have to be nice. They don't have to come to the meeting.

asweetie06 wrote:
a hand shake is a part of good maners...

Not everywhere. You ever seen a plantiff or a defendant shake the judge's hand? There is a time and a place for everything.

asweetie06 wrote:
maybe i have been out of school too long...