I have a Question for the Ladies

if you're out and about and you see a gentleman you like would you go up to him and start talkin to him? or are you the type to let the men come up to you?

That depends on his demeanor. Communication is a two way thing.

Nah, not me. And I'm an extremely confident person, but that is one thing I won't do. I'm shy when it comes to things like that

hey, im an old fashioned kind of gurl......i got be chased not the other way around!

go talk to him hey he might not see you or even be interested untill you go up to him.

PRAISE THE LORD!!! That's the type of female that I use to be...bold and upfront with the fellas. I use to make a game out of how many phone numbers I could get. I am actually really interested in a lot of things that guys are so I would use that to talk about and make them laugh. I would use my smile and charm and get whatever I wanted. I knew once I got a smile out of them it was on. However, now that the Lord has gotten a hold of me I know now that females are not suppose to represent themselves like that. We are the prize. We are priceless jewels. We are royalty and can walk with our heads up and our shoulders back without being stuck up. I know that I got it going on because God don't make no junk. The fellas are suppose to approach the females and persue them, not the other way around. In my bible it says that a man that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and only Jezebel persues after the man. That's not exactly how it's worded, but I hope you understand what I'm saying. Plus a holy, sanctified, young lady has a glow that only the Lord can give her and men can't help but approach her. So, I guess to answer your question I would have to say that I would not approach a good looking brother. I would wait and let the Lord send that special man to me.

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