HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE???

ReDD HarLeM DeViLL wrote:

* $ MiLa $ * wrote:

I gotta question, since most of yall have been in love b4: How do you REALLY know that you are in love with another person, and not just lusting after them real hard??? Whats that one thing you know for yourself that lets you know that you are in love??? I know some people may not be able to explain it...but anyone who has the slightest idea to help me understand would be helpful.

This is a tough one to answer, cuz everyone has different views, thoughts, feelings and ways of going about and seeing things. Me and a fellow HBCU Central-el were arguing the other night on whether there was a such thing as "Love at First Sight", I honestly do not believe so. Love is so much more than an Idea, Word, thought, or feeling for that matter. It's a complicated matter when trying to distinguish strong feelings and true serious LOVE, especially when you have no idea what it really is. Going on this "Love at First Sight" to me that is LUST. You see something you want and go after it, something comes to you and you taKe it. It's there to serve it's purpose which is to fulfill your need(s) for this love you seeK but, is not what you thought it was. Love is a PROCESS, something the two of you collectively share. Completely, Whole Heartedly, Open Honest and true. It is not to be searched for, it's not something you would find by looKing, and dayum sure ain't popping up over night. When you are in love, and that love is TRUE, you have found your "Other" as I call them. The one that maKes you whole, the one that completes your being, the one that you can see forever with. All questions are answered and there are no more to be asKed, Trust is not an issue, Honor and Honesty is a given, Loyalty and Commitment without question, you'd have no second thoughts, no matter how tough or rough things get you Know without a doubt he/she will be there regardless, and what you feel for them is truely unconditional and limitless. ....Oh yeah, and never giving up. Cuz you will get tested on your faith in your love. There will be other Men/Women who will try you and your partner. When you give in to them, or seperate with your partner then you've given up. Things liKe that you just you push through together, love is all about ups and downs, the moment you give up on it... you've failed. Oh yeah, Love Hurts... I'm done...