WHEN GREEKS ASK THE QUESTIONS

58 replies · 21699 views · Started by suthernfryd · Jun 2005

Hampton, VA

suthernfryd Hampton, VA

Ok. I've never seen this addressed in a thread... What if a greek asks an aspirant if he/she is interested in their org (and he/she is, but has never expressed interest)? Should the aspirant lie? What if the greek is a friend of the aspirant? Should the aspirant then be honest? Will a greek even ask such a question? Also, when is it appropriate for an aspirant to express interest to a greek he/she knows in that chapter? 1st semester (soph. year) seems too early and Rush seems too late....when (if) did you verbally express interest? I hope my questions don't cross any boundaries. Forgive me if they do.

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Soundcheck 1898 · Jun 2005

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OoHDatDude wrote:
Yo shorty stop justifying yourself to these people. Be ride or die about yo sh*t...you'll learn. Taking the weight is a lot easier and faster than justifying a rack of random sh*t to some random muthafukka's...trust

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cutiepie@csu from cincinnati, OH · Jun 2005

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Thanks for the advice.

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· Jun 2005

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Blutifully Human wrote:
I didn't have to "verbally" express it until they out right asked me "Why are you interested in Zeta and what can you offer to my organization?". You shouldn't have to say anything before that point. They should see it in your actions. It's never too early. If u know what organization is right for you, you should be attenting their events and making yourself seen (even if that's freshman year). Trust, they will know u are interested in due time and u won't have to say a word

Honestly, that depends on the chapter...With my chapter, we never ask people if they're interested until they inform us in some way, be it telling one of us, sending a note, etc. So ya...be careful about not saying anything, b/c with certain orgs that attract a large number of aspirants if you're all quiet in the background and never express your interest discreetly to a member, you may just get looked over.

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PGPeripheryGirl from NY, NY · Jun 2005

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I couldn't imagine asking someone if they were interested in becoming an AKA... it just seems so gauche. But then again, there is a fine line between recruitment and inquiry. But I don't think that inquiry should ever be done with someone who you don't know well like "hey stranger, wanna join my org?" but if you have a friend thats hinting at stuff and is being kinda ambiguous, you could just be like, "Um... are you interested or something?!" :???: But then again, I was raised not to ask too many questions, so my M.O. is to just sit back and see how things play out. A few of my line sisters have mentioned members of other orgs on campus inquiring and suggesting. But, I think that its usually just a innocent question that gets misinterpretted.

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Blutifully Human from Washington, DC · Jun 2005

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plebelletifi08 wrote:
Blutifully Human wrote:
I didn't have to "verbally" express it until they out right asked me "Why are you interested in Zeta and what can you offer to my organization?". You shouldn't have to say anything before that point. They should see it in your actions. It's never too early. If u know what organization is right for you, you should be attenting their events and making yourself seen (even if that's freshman year). Trust, they will know u are interested in due time and u won't have to say a word
Honestly, that depends on the chapter...With my chapter, we never ask people if they're interested until they inform us in some way, be it telling one of us, sending a note, etc. So ya...be careful about not saying anything, b/c with certain orgs that attract a large number of aspirants if you're all quiet in the background and never express your interest discreetly to a member, you may just get looked over.

true, things are definately different from region to region/chapter to chapter. I guess it just depends on where u are. But i'd say even before u get to the verbal expression point or lil notes and hints, u should be putting yourself out there. And i don't just mean attending events and finding u a lil seat in the background. Make yourself seen, ask relevant and pertinent questions, help out/volunteer with community service projects they having going on, and be sure to approach/greet them when u see them on campus. Yes, even if u may think they will catch an attitude...SPEAK. Cuz if they notice that u didn't...u aren't puttin in a hard enuff effort to get to know someone that u want to call a "sister" or "brother"

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· Jun 2005

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Blutifully Human wrote:
plebelletifi08 wrote:
Blutifully Human wrote:
I didn't have to "verbally" express it until they out right asked me "Why are you interested in Zeta and what can you offer to my organization?". You shouldn't have to say anything before that point. They should see it in your actions. It's never too early. If u know what organization is right for you, you should be attenting their events and making yourself seen (even if that's freshman year). Trust, they will know u are interested in due time and u won't have to say a word
Honestly, that depends on the chapter...With my chapter, we never ask people if they're interested until they inform us in some way, be it telling one of us, sending a note, etc. So ya...be careful about not saying anything, b/c with certain orgs that attract a large number of aspirants if you're all quiet in the background and never express your interest discreetly to a member, you may just get looked over.

Very true.

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· Jun 2005

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Blutifully Human wrote:
true, things are definately different from region to region/chapter to chapter. I guess it just depends on where u are. But i'd say even before u get to the verbal expression point or lil notes and hints, u should be putting yourself out there. And i don't just mean attending events and finding u a lil seat in the background. Make yourself seen, ask relevant and pertinent questions, help out/volunteer with community service projects they having going on, and be sure to approach/greet them when u see them on campus. Yes, even if u may think they will catch an attitude...SPEAK. Cuz if they notice that u didn't...u aren't puttin in a hard enuff effort to get to know someone that u want to call a "sister" or "brother"

I Agree

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Blutifully Human from Washington, DC · Jun 2005

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^^^Awwww...look at everybody bustin out the pics. You're perty girl

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