Definitely a tough topic as there is a lot of emotion running around it. I think it is more difficult to discuss, because many people aren't honest. As Black men, we're almost conditioned to accept overweight women (lest we face their wrath for not being "real Black men"). Fortunately for me, I'm old enough to know what I want and not afraid to say it. That said, there's no reason to be disrespectful to anyone.
How thick is too thick? Or better yet, when does "thick" become outright fat? To me, it isn't as much about a numeric weight value as much as it is the package AND lifestyle. I'm an active person. I like running, biking, walking around my city and other similar activities. When you've crossed the line from "thick" to "fat", most of these things don't appeal to you. Sure, a lot of women claim to like these things to land a man, but when time goes by, we all realize that these are elements of a lifestyle and not something you can pretend to like for a few months until he's "hooked".
Eating is of course another element. I eat "cleanly" 6 days per week. Why? Because if I don't, I get fat. It's as simple as that. I know that many of you are still college students (blessed with ungodly metabolism), however when you pass 27 or so, it slows down and gets VERY difficult to keep the weight off. To keep a healthy body, not only must you work out, but you have to watch what you eat. That takes discipline and commitment. For me, it is very tough. Some days, I slip and eat what I shouldn't, but for the most part, I have to be disciplined enough to control myself and what goes into my body.
So when talking about a mate, I want the same thing. I don't want to be hitched to someone who can't keep up or doesn't have the self-discipline to at the VERY least control their eating. At that point our lives are incompatible. It ****, because I'm a "face" man (as opposed to the ****/****/leg men) and many of the most beautiful women are a bit on the plus size.
Does this mean I'm fixated on the "anorexic white chicks" described above? Nope. But I do need a woman who understands that an attractive body takes hard work and discipline--like everything worthwhile in life.
So my answer? When your weight puts a hamper on your lifestyle, it is too thick. If your lifestyle consists of watching TV/movies and the occasional jaunt to the bar/club/restaurant, then I guess there isn't a such thing as too thick.
