HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE???

83 replies · 18350 views · Started by La · Jun 2004

I just thought about this topic from so many different convedrsations I have had with people...And the topic of love and relationships come up. And I will tell someone ( specifically guys ), that I have never been in love before and they find it shocking. Mainly because of 1) my age and 2) the fact that girls tend to fall in love easier than guys...so for me to be almost 20 and never been in love surprises people. What do yall think about girls falling in love easier than guys, and have you been in love before???

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A'Kaye47 from Dover, DE · Jun 2004

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* $ MiLa $ * wrote:
I gotta question, since most of yall have been in love b4: How do you REALLY know that you are in love with another person, and not just lusting after them real hard??? Whats that one thing you know for yourself that lets you know that you are in love??? I know some people may not be able to explain it...but anyone who has the slightest idea to help me understand would be helpful.

you kno u inlove with that person when you do ****for them thats stupid as hell...or if you put up with outlandish ****that you wouldnt normally put up with ina relationship that you jus playin around in. You also kno you inlove when its hard for you to move on....*sigh* Trust me on these....*smh* :roll: :arrow:

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Blutifully Human from Washington, DC · Jun 2004

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The only man i've ever been in love with is Jesus. lol. Does he count? At the age of 19, i can say that i haven't been in a relationship. And i ain't tryna fall over some random dude. No need to fall, when standing up is just so pleasant LOL

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Blutifully Human from Washington, DC · Jun 2004

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singing "what's it like" by Jagged Edge What's it like to be love? That's all i been thinkin of I was just wondering Will love ever know me? Cuz my heart is open and i've been hoping to find what it is everybody keeps on talkin about What's it like to be in love?

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AggieSweetie07 · Jun 2004

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ReDD HarLeM DeViLL wrote:
AggieWarrior wrote:
right now i am... but i still got a shield on my heart though.... i've been single for the past three years before March and for a year and a half i was still hurt by the things my last girl did... somethings now i still think of what i did wrong b/c i just got dissed for no good reason... i'm really just taking the relationship i'm in right now a day at a time... i just still feel the pain of the past one... and i can't fully love anyone to the maximum ability... b/c that shield is always up... and only time can change that shield... i know this will be a shock to a lot of people, but this is the truth... as much as i love the girl i'm with now... inside of me there's still that dark spot that will always be there... b/c i was in love, and it wasn't returned... and it was a crushing blow to my whole being... so yeah, i've been in love before, and in my side this is a risk for me to be in love right now... and i'm takin it a day at a time... :arrow:
Idunno the whole and complete situation, but in order for you to truely be able to say you Love the one you are with now, you have to allow yourself to let go of what happened. Don't allow the past to mess up today and tomorrow for you, especially if things are going in a good direction. If you continue to hold up this Shield as you say then it is obvious that you are not yet ready for a relationship. It is a good thing tho that you have chosen to stand by your decision and staying with the feelings you have now for this person, but at the same time If you can't allow yourself to see past what has happened already then you are setting yourself and your partner up for a great let down, Which will be due to your thoughts and doubts, and all else that you are holding on to in your mind. Trust when I tell ya, It's not that easy but it is so much better to let it all go *I have been there before* When you let all that is holding you bacK from truely loving this girl completely...When you let that go, THAT is when you and her will both be able to be happy about the situation. Cuz right now (From what I see, and I might be off or a li'l wrong) she does not completely have our heart, the way that she should. Not with that shield present... Not trying to **** in or anything, just looKin out

intereseting point and i think that's true...*dang i need a tissue*, a tear bout to fall out fa real

· Jun 2004

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Yes...im 19 and i am in love right now. Being in love is a beautiful thing, and so is the relationship-even though it is hard work-but its all worth it. When the right person comes into ur life u will know. Now just by how he/she looks, but situations you go through with them, thins you would do for them that u wouldnt NORMALLY do in ur right mind, and vise versa. As for me-im planning on making my boo my hubby. :lol:

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· Jun 2004

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... Maaaaaan Not for a while, I'm not opening that door. LOVE is much more than people have it thought out to be. Love doesn't come in a weeK, a months nor a couple of months at that. I say you haven't seen the dawn of love till you've touched about 2 good years with a person. For anyone who says they are in "Love" and they have only been with their partners for less than a year, I'm sorry but I beg to differ and I believe that you have Love confused with the Strong Feelings. LiKe :lol: there was this one chicK... she tried to catch me out there and put me on front street. Naaaaah Ma, be easy..... She just clear outta the blue, while we were having one of those special moments, busts out and says... "I Love You" :lol: Haaaaa I looKed at her and said "No you don't".... she looKed at me all shocKed and $#!T, then I said "I Feel for you too".... Yo LOVE is more than a word to toss around, or something to say to shut someone up, or maKe someone happy.... That one little word is so serious

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AggieWarrior from Charlotte, NC · Jun 2004

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ReDD HarLeM DeViLL wrote:
AggieWarrior wrote:
right now i am... but i still got a shield on my heart though.... i've been single for the past three years before March and for a year and a half i was still hurt by the things my last girl did... somethings now i still think of what i did wrong b/c i just got dissed for no good reason... i'm really just taking the relationship i'm in right now a day at a time... i just still feel the pain of the past one... and i can't fully love anyone to the maximum ability... b/c that shield is always up... and only time can change that shield... i know this will be a shock to a lot of people, but this is the truth... as much as i love the girl i'm with now... inside of me there's still that dark spot that will always be there... b/c i was in love, and it wasn't returned... and it was a crushing blow to my whole being... so yeah, i've been in love before, and in my side this is a risk for me to be in love right now... and i'm takin it a day at a time... :arrow:
Idunno the whole and complete situation, but in order for you to truely be able to say you Love the one you are with now, you have to allow yourself to let go of what happened. Don't allow the past to mess up today and tomorrow for you, especially if things are going in a good direction. If you continue to hold up this Shield as you say then it is obvious that you are not yet ready for a relationship. It is a good thing tho that you have chosen to stand by your decision and staying with the feelings you have now for this person, but at the same time If you can't allow yourself to see past what has happened already then you are setting yourself and your partner up for a great let down, Which will be due to your thoughts and doubts, and all else that you are holding on to in your mind. Trust when I tell ya, It's not that easy but it is so much better to let it all go *I have been there before* When you let all that is holding you bacK from truely loving this girl completely...When you let that go, THAT is when you and her will both be able to be happy about the situation. Cuz right now (From what I see, and I might be off or a li'l wrong) she does not completely have our heart, the way that she should. Not with that shield present... Not trying to **** in or anything, just looKin out

i know, good look out... but yeah on the surface it may seem like it's nothing, but the story is so long and drawn out that i can't even recite it right now, or at anytime.... i do know one thing... i do have a great person right now.... and even if things went wrong as a couple, she'd still be my best friend... since she understands me so well, she's lettin me do what i have to do to get my mindset right.... so it's a day to day thing... ;:arrow:

· Jun 2004

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A-Dub wrote:
i know, good look out... but yeah on the surface it may seem like it's nothing, but the story is so long and drawn out that i can't even recite it right now, or at anytime.... i do know one thing... i do have a great person right now.... and even if things went wrong as a couple, she'd still be my best friend... since she understands me so well, she's lettin me do what i have to do to get my mindset right.... so it's a day to day thing... ;:arrow:

Nah, I understand you cuz as I said... I've been there. But be conscious to the fact that you have something beautiful now... Emphasis on NOW. What happened then is done, it's understandable that you may not be fully recovered from what happened, but also pay attention to the fact that this is you and a new person. Don't mess up what you have now cuz of something that went wrong with someone else, that wouldn't be right. Don't hurt someone else cuz of some previous pain you're holding on to. But yeah Man, taKe it day by day... and hopefully you cleanse your mind/heart of all that is negative