HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE TREATED?

29 replies · 15335 views · Started by Dnell-n-Atl · Jul 2004

Cincinnati, OH

Dnell-n-Atl Cincinnati, OH

WHATS UP LADIES, I HAVE SOME QUESTIONS ABOUT HOW DO YOU ALL WANT TO BE TREATED OR APPROACHED. IM NOT TALKIN ABOUT GAME OR NOTHIN BUT JUST YOU ALL POINT OF VIEW. 1. WHATS THE DEAL WITH THE WANTING THE **** OR THE DUDE THAT WONT DUE RIGHT BY YOU. YOU COULD HAVE A BF AND HE COULD CHEAT/LIE/OR EVERY ABUSE(DONT CONDONE IT). AND SOME(NOT ALL) WILL INSTANLY SAY WELL HE LOVE ME OR I SHOULD GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE. OR YOU WILL LEAVE THAT ONE AND JUST GO STRAIGHT BACK INTO THE SAME KIND OR RELATIONSHIP. THIS BOTHERS ME BECAUSE A GOOD MAN WILL COME AND THE FIRST THING YOU WILL DO IS KEEP HIM AS A GOOD FRIEND OR HE IS NOT MY TYPE, BUT THIER TYPE IS THE KIND THAT LIE AND CHEAT ON YOU. SO WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON GIRLS WANTING THE BAD MEN. 2. I HAVE HEARD COUNTLESS FEMALES SAY THEY ARE GETTING TIRED OF A DUDE TRYIN TO GET THEIR NUMBER AND SAYIN "SHORTY", "MA","REDBONE"...ETC SO WHATS YOUR IDEA WAY FOR A DUDE TO APPROACH YOU..... BUT WHEN A DUDE COMES UP TO YOU AND SPEAKS POLITE AND MANNERFUL GIRLS THINK HE A LAME OR ACTS WHITE LOL, SO HOW WHAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT YALL LIKE OR DISLIKE. OH YEA THESE ACCOUNTS ARE NOT PERSONAL JUST SOMETHING THAT SEEN AROUND AND ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW THE DEAL......

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Slim GoodyN757 · Jul 2004

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I have had my share of "****" boyfriends and i have not had any good experiences with them.They smoked or drank a lot, sold they **** and whatnot but as I grew older i realized that a **** is not what i want at all. I don't even know why i used to deal with them but from asking other girls some say that they like them b/c they feel protected around them, they are aggressive, they take risks, they like their style, I could go on and on but there is no reason that would make me want to go back to dating THUGS. 2.I would love for a guy to approach me in an intelligent way. If you don't know my name please let that be the first thing you ask me and don't say"YO ma, whats yo name. Being polite and being real with me gets you major bonus points. Being able to have a good convo on different subjects is a plus also. To get my attention please don't grab me and then expect me to want to exchange numbers b/c it's not happening. Basically, to sum it all up I don't like it when brothas be spitting game, I don't have time for games, come at me correct, not like I'm a piece of meat. Respect me, Treat me with the courtesy that you would give your mother.

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tRuLyDiViNe_04 from ATL, GA · Jul 2004

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1- I have dated "thugs" and "nice guys". The thugs that I dated do make me feel protected, and are fun to be with, but I know that they are only temporary. The problem arises when females fail to see that. The reason that some of us keep the "nice guys" as good firends is because we blame ourselves for the problems in our previous relationships, and don't want the same thing to happen with the nice guy. Another reason is that we realize that bf/gf relationships are only temporary, but friendships last forever, and they want their relationship with the nice guy to last forever. 2- I don't have a specific way that I like to be approached. I honsetly don't have a real problem with the 'hey ma let me holla at u 4 a minute". Most of those dudes just haven't been taught any better, so what I do is stand there and conversate with them for a minute and ask them why they approached me the way that they did, and suggest a better approach. Usually, the guys that ended up being my bf did not start out tryna holla, but were friends first and the relationship just evolved from there.

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EkWoah · Jul 2004

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i just read what some of y'all said and how you be saying things like "i want him to come up to me intelligently" or whatever but then you say you dont like game, and i was just wondering if he wasn't raised that way, and if thats not the way he acts, then him pretending to be intelligent would just be deceiving you right? and instead of "dissing" people because of the type of culture they were brought up in maybe you should look past that and see what kind of person they really are, plus, the intelligent dudes are the ones you have to look out for, because they be plotting complex ish, and im sure they take more risks daily than any ****, whether it be in the stock market or whatever Tongue out

besides, people like to portray themselves as something they arent a lot of the time, so that intelligent "nerd" you know might be the real **** behind closed doors and vice versa Eek

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CaUpAntHeR08 from Nashville, TN · Jul 2004

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Onomatopoeian Posted: Mon Jul 12, 2004 10:07 am Post subject: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- i just read what some of y'all said and how you be saying things like "i want him to come up to me intelligently" or whatever but then you say you dont like game, and i was just wondering if he wasn't raised that way, and if thats not the way he acts, then him pretending to be intelligent would just be deceiving you right? and instead of "dissing" people because of the type of culture they were brought up in maybe you should look past that and see what kind of person they really are, plus, the intelligent dudes are the ones you have to look out for, because they be plotting complex ish, and im sure they take more risks daily than any ****, whether it be in the stock market or whatever besides, people like to portray themselves as something they arent a lot of the time, so that intelligent "nerd" you know might be the real **** behind closed doors and vice versa

I agree with what you are saying. There have been guys that come up who try to make it out as if they are "thugs" just to impress their boys. Then when I give them a chance they are some of the most intelligent and kind people that anyone could meet. It's all about their surroundings, they could have been brought up to think that that's the way to approach a female. Who could blame them, because as it has been stated before, look at what's being portrayed by the media.

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· Jul 2004

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1. I haven't been in a relationship with a relatively hard-core guy, yet with one who tried to live out this image. It didn't work because he was always out doing god knows what for money and didn't have time. no matter how cute who was, what kind of money he had , i didin't care because he didn't treat me right. I have also had the nice guy who really liked me? Was i with him? No. I guess the main reason we gyrls don't end up with the nice guys, is because sometimes they're too easy to have. Too willing. I guess bad guys offer a challenge to some. No i'm not sayin bad as is I'm gone bust a cap in yo **** worse than 50's, but one who doens't seem as if they could care less about ya ****. This is a problem in our society and often times that's how we get into a cycle of bad relationships. They gyrl gets treated bad, she meets a nice guy, doesn't trust him therefore she treats him bad, and then the nice guy turns worse. 2. The few people i have actually taken seriously are the ones who didn't have to use pick up lines at all. I have usually known them for awhile before i develop n e thing serious. But the best way to approach a gyrl is through casual conversation, and not soundin like DMX talkin about "AYOOO". And definitely not tryna be Latin callin me Mami. Or knowin damn well u frum the south, talkin bout "What's up Ma". I just can't deal with it. Just casually talk. Because gaMe isn't the truth, and it only makes the gyrls laugh at ya ****.

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EkWoah · Jul 2004

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aha i want to go up to a girl talkin like DMX "say girl what yoNAME IS"

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jadekiss · Jul 2004

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the sad thing about that is...guys really do talk to girls like that...

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ThatClassyGirl216 · Jul 2004

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Dnell-n-Atl wrote:
WHATS UP LADIES, I HAVE SOME QUESTIONS ABOUT HOW DO YOU ALL WANT TO BE TREATED OR APPROACHED. IM NOT TALKIN ABOUT GAME OR NOTHIN BUT JUST YOU ALL POINT OF VIEW. 1. WHATS THE DEAL WITH THE WANTING THE **** OR THE DUDE THAT WONT DUE RIGHT BY YOU. YOU COULD HAVE A BF AND HE COULD CHEAT/LIE/OR EVERY ABUSE(DONT CONDONE IT). AND SOME(NOT ALL) WILL INSTANLY SAY WELL HE LOVE ME OR I SHOULD GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE. OR YOU WILL LEAVE THAT ONE AND JUST GO STRAIGHT BACK INTO THE SAME KIND OR RELATIONSHIP. THIS BOTHERS ME BECAUSE A GOOD MAN WILL COME AND THE FIRST THING YOU WILL DO IS KEEP HIM AS A GOOD FRIEND OR HE IS NOT MY TYPE, BUT THIER TYPE IS THE KIND THAT LIE AND CHEAT ON YOU. SO WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON GIRLS WANTING THE BAD MEN. 2. I HAVE HEARD COUNTLESS FEMALES SAY THEY ARE GETTING TIRED OF A DUDE TRYIN TO GET THEIR NUMBER AND SAYIN "SHORTY", "MA","REDBONE"...ETC SO WHATS YOUR IDEA WAY FOR A DUDE TO APPROACH YOU..... BUT WHEN A DUDE COMES UP TO YOU AND SPEAKS POLITE AND MANNERFUL GIRLS THINK HE A LAME OR ACTS WHITE LOL, SO HOW WHAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT YALL LIKE OR DISLIKE. OH YEA THESE ACCOUNTS ARE NOT PERSONAL JUST SOMETHING THAT SEEN AROUND AND ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW THE DEAL......

I get what u r saying so let me give my point of view on this: 1. I will agree with this, because I've definitely had my share of "****" boyfriends...one of my exes are in jail right now, two just got out. The one I am with now used to be a "****" but he realized the things that are really important, so he takes care of business now. That was my first love and we broke up 4yrs ago, but now we have both changed. I went wit my last boyfriend, thinking he was a good guy and I never give good guys a chance, so I decided to give him a chance. But to this day, I have no idea if he ever cheated on me or whatnot. So I don't go by good guy or **** anymore...I have to get to know the person before I can judge them. 2. The guys who have pickup lines are the ones I don't really pay attention to. The ones that I have gone with (and had an actual relationship) are the ones that I have gotten a chance to get to know them for awhile. So if a guy wants to get with me, he should take an interest in me and try to be my friend first!

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· Jul 2004

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Dnell-n-Atl wrote:
1. WHATS THE DEAL WITH THE WANTING THE **** OR THE DUDE THAT WONT DUE RIGHT BY YOU. YOU COULD HAVE A BF AND HE COULD CHEAT/LIE/OR EVERY ABUSE(DONT CONDONE IT). AND SOME(NOT ALL) WILL INSTANLY SAY WELL HE LOVE ME OR I SHOULD GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE. OR YOU WILL LEAVE THAT ONE AND JUST GO STRAIGHT BACK INTO THE SAME KIND OR RELATIONSHIP. THIS BOTHERS ME BECAUSE A GOOD MAN WILL COME AND THE FIRST THING YOU WILL DO IS KEEP HIM AS A GOOD FRIEND OR HE IS NOT MY TYPE, BUT THIER TYPE IS THE KIND THAT LIE AND CHEAT ON YOU. SO WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON GIRLS WANTING THE BAD MEN. 2. I HAVE HEARD COUNTLESS FEMALES SAY THEY ARE GETTING TIRED OF A DUDE TRYIN TO GET THEIR NUMBER AND SAYIN "SHORTY", "MA","REDBONE"...ETC SO WHATS YOUR IDEA WAY FOR A DUDE TO APPROACH YOU..... BUT WHEN A DUDE COMES UP TO YOU AND SPEAKS POLITE AND MANNERFUL GIRLS THINK HE A LAME OR ACTS WHITE LOL, SO HOW WHAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT YALL LIKE OR DISLIKE.

1. Don't like thugs...sorry, yet they always seem to like me....y?! Anywho...my bestfriend is in a similare situation. Last summer this time the guy she was talking to let her know that he had been "seeing" her and his ex....she cried and cried....but then let him know she forgave him and now they're still messing or whatever :x . She knows I think she's dumb as bricks for that...y do we let ourselves be so naive? :? 2. "Shorty," "Ma," and "Redbone"...wow I hear those way too much and it is annoying :roll: . I'd rather have the guy approach me in the way u call "acting white" than the "What up ma?!" manner. Don't ya'll realize that first impressions are everything. If u talk to me like u talk to every other girl I'd assume that you'd treat me as such too, and I expect to be treated like a rare find....so assume that I am one from the beginning and let something meaninful fall out of that mouth once you approach me! 8)