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Stop Badgering

Stop Badgering
Posted By: Blessyn Milton on August 12, 2005


I’m a big girl, and no matter what, I never had a problem with my size. My parents taught me that God makes nothing perfect, we all have our imperfections. I was also taught to love me for whom and what I am, not what society wants me to be. So the big girl jokes, will never offend me. Though, I have a problem, with smaller women, who think we (big girls) can’t wear or stay within the latest fashion genre.



Newsflash, there are plus size stores that aid us with this miseducation (Ashley Stewart, Lane Bryant, Torrid, etc.) In some aspects, I guess it’s true what the comedienne Mo’Nique says “skinny women are evil” In addition to that, I have this huge problem, with men and women who always quote those same tired lines “for a big girl you keep yourself up”, and “even though you big, you have a pretty face.” But hold up, I have a problem with the big women who ask their man that question “Do these jeans make me look fat?” That is the most ignorant question someone plus size can ask. If you’re labeled plus size (size 16 and above), then you’re going to look a little bigger than the mannequin wearing them on display. Ladies don’t set yourself up for failure, he only answers in consideration of your feelings. I posted this blog, to express how I and other may feel towards these statements. So to both, big and small, can we stop badgering each other and ourselves.
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Ashley Martino
Florida A&M University class of 2010
That's right girl. I am skinny. I mean SKINNY. I wear a size 5 and I am begging to gain weight. Atleast 20 pounds. I just need to know what to do in a small amount of time. People say just be happy cause God made no one perfect. What do you think about this???
Friday, August 12th 2005 at 1:24PM
Fiona Turnage
Voorhees College class of 2008
I WAS VOTED BEST DRESSED IN MY 12TH GRADE YEAR AND I AM PLUSE SIZE AND I FEEL THAT BIG GIRLS ARE OFTEN LOOKED DOWN ON BC OF THEIR SIZE LIKE THEY CAN'T DO THINGS THAT OTHER PPL CAN DO BUT I REPRESENT WELL FOR THE PLUSE SIZE GIRLS AND I HOLD MY HEAD HIGH IM NOT FULL OF MYSELF BUT I LOVE ME AND NO 1 WILL TAKE THAT AWAY FROM ME I AM BEAUTIFUL
Friday, August 12th 2005 at 4:29PM
Chanel Mitchell
Florida A&M University class of 2010
Hello... I totally understand where you are coming from. Ladies just be yourself and be happy GOD created you in the image he wanted you to be. SO let go and let God handle it. However I am a plus size girl and if the man aint ready to accept that than he don't need to be with me. I am thick and in between and I am happy
Love me and you'll sista's that love themselves for themselves.
Chanel M.
Saturday, March 25th 2006 at 2:50PM
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