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Venus vs. Mars (The New Era)

Venus vs. Mars (The New Era)
Posted By: Kimberly S. Smith on November 22, 2005


You’re somewhat right. But why commit to someone who’s not ready to commit themselves 100%. I don’t want 70 nor 90%, I want the 100%. And if I can’t get that, then why receive it?
But to answer that question previously asked to me, I’m not trying to justify his behavior nor how I feel about it. I understand the fact that he’s just fresh out of long term relationship and almost married her. I knew the type of person he was prior to. I don’t want to PUSH him into another relationship because I don’t want him to resent me. I told him as of now, I don’t need a title, but don’t allow my efforts and time to be in vain. Don’t disrespect my mind, my body, nor my son. We are supposedly in a monogamous affiliation, but we’re allowed to have options, but don’t do what you wouldn’t want the other to do. It’s kind of a no ends situation.
True enough we have backed each other in a corner.



But I’ve already told him what would make me totally walk away from him and he’s told me the same.
This situation is different. I can’t get my friends to understand that this is not a Mars vs. Venus war. Women can not just jump into a relationship, did people forget about dating????? Getting to know some one FIRST. It might feel like a relationship, but it's not until its CONFIRMED. So stop assuming ladies. This situation or relationship is about being realistic, I can spend time with someone, have love for them, without having to demand so much right then and there. A lot a women make the mistake of wanting everything at that moment. True, we can’t help the way we feel about people. They may even feel the same way. But rushing a relationship will only doom it. I’ve been dealing with him and realize that everything doesn’t have to be on my call. I’m not afraid of getting hurt. It’s a part of life. Every moment, pain, and suffrage that I live through makes me a stronger survivor.

AM I mistaken?

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WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III
Florida A&M University class of 1995
Deep post Sis, keep doing what You Aspire to do.
I always wish You well.
Have an awesome ThanksGiving Holiday.
Take care
Be safe, Yourself and Family.
Sincerely
William
Tuesday, November 22nd 2005 at 3:49PM
Kennard Wheat
Alabama State University class of 2010
I feel you sister keep your head up I like to see that their are still girls that think like that I'm in a situation right now I not sure I show stay in but who knows maybe its right for me much love holla at ya boy Nizzy 1
Tuesday, November 22nd 2005 at 7:01PM
Rodney e
Tennessee State University class of 2001
yeah, it will be cool, I hope things work out for you.
Wednesday, November 23rd 2005 at 12:38PM
SIE aka george simons
orderly at helping hands elder home care
get @ me>>>
i want to know how u r doing usually... okay??
Wednesday, November 23rd 2005 at 10:05PM
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